Regaining Lost Trust – Is There an Easy Way?
July 26, 2010 by admin
Filed under Weekly lessons
Everything boils down to your mindset and your willingness to accept and repent for what you have done.
You will have to do more than what you can ever think of when you broke the trust and respect of your spouse. At the end of the day, all those things that you must do will add to getting you in a position where you have a better chance of regaining the trust of your spouse and saving the marriage. There are instances where you will fail and where things seem to be hopeless. One of the major hurdles will be the fear of your spouse that he or she will never regain his or her trust in you.
Married couples who are going through this difficult phase in their relationship will have to understand that no two situations is similar and that the challenge of rebuilding and surviving the crisis can only be overcome if both parties are willing to do their share.
It all boils down to our being transparent
Whatever the situation you are in right now, the most important thing that you and your spouse must work on, regardless of who is at fault, is transparency. This is what both of you must do from Day One. To really appreciate the importance of this aspect of relationship rebuilding, you only have to look for the definition of the word “transparency” in your Webster Dictionary, and you will find it revealing. There are actually 2 definitions for the word “transparency” that capture what we want to achieve. When we talk of transparency, we are referring to our being “sheer” or “fine” enough to be seen through by our spouse. We are also concerned about our being devoid of deceit and pretense.
It is important that you and your spouse, regardless of the circumstances you are in right now, must have this positive mindset. So, how can you be free from deceit? You must learn to open up and avoid keeping secrets from one another. Be forthright and sheer enough so that your spouse will no longer doubt or question your motives. In short, you must walk the talk. This does not necessary mean that you have to give up or sacrifice your individuality or independence. This is not also tantamount to having to ask their permission or concurrence before you do anything.
You can be transparent and keep your identity as separate and distinct characters. However, you have to understand that, once you become involved in a serious relationship, your individual identity will go through some changes.
What are these changes?
Marriage ceremonies are diverse in several aspects and this diversity is defined the cultural edicts and beliefs subscribed to by the couples. These are normally characterized by the language and symbolic rites that relate to concept of union between two people. This reinforces the concept of collected identity where the couples will subordinate their individual identities to this collected identity.
You and your spouse must be aware of these dynamics in your relationship. When you commit yourself to your spouse, you are in effect saying to your spouse that you are no longer separate and distinct individuals with different interests and motivations. You are one unit. This is an important sensibility that you need to have in your relationship with your spouse. Your marriage grows and flourishes as you and your spouse grow as one single unit.
When you embrace and subscribe to this transparency, you will be able to start the process of rebuilding your relationship. The task is far from being easy, and it may take some time before you can gain positive response from your spouse. However, this is the best way you can regain their trust.
Remember the first rule – Be transparent to regain the trust of your spouse.
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